Why doesn't the golden rule work?
As you work with and enjoy looking at your Vision Board and take inspired action towards your goals and dreams
you will be meeting people and affecting something in their lives.
You may help change the course of their life just by a word or a smile.There’s an old saying
“do unto others as you would have done unto you.”
It’s called the golden rule …BUT, have you noticed it doesn’t work?
WHY NOT?
It is because often people want different things.
learned from Tony Alessandra.This is his platinum rule,
DO UNTO OTHERS AS THEY WOULD LIKE TO HAVE DONE UNTO THEM...
This means that if you like coffee and your friend likes teaYOU give them tea - Don’t insist that they taste YOUR delicious coffee. Yet so many people try to influence and force others to their way instead of meeting the needs of others.
When you understand the 4 personality styles and learn the way each style prefers to you will begin to communicate in a powerful and profound way. It is a great way to win friends and influence people.
When it comes to the basic human needs of love, acceptance,
kindness and appreciation - absolutely give the respect and acknowledgement
to others that you would like to receive. These are basic human needs, to be loved and appreciated, recognized and accepted for being who they are are general across all personality styles.
When it comes to communication styles and language-ing then it really supports the relationship if you could "work with the other persons language." Imagine traveling to a foreign country, how much better would you enjoy the experience and gain support if you could speak their language?
“The person with the greatest behavioral flexibility WINS!”- Barbara Pellegrino
Understanding the different communication styles and which behavioral style is more out going and direct verses shy and indirect and which styles are 'task oriented' versus 'people oriented' will give you the flexibility to develop greater rapport with many more people.
DISC is the acronym for the 4 major communication styles:
Driver - Dominant: Fast thinking, Fast acting. Bottom line. Direct. Task oriented. Leaders or loners.
Influencer - Socializer: Fun loving. People oriented. Star qualities. Leaders.
Sensitive - Relator: Cares for others. Wants to make everyone happy. Supportive.Team Players.
Constant - Analytical: Task oriented. Needs information -reseach facts & figures before making decisions. Tendency towards being a loner.
Discover how to recognize which style best describes you and how communicate with your opposite...
Wouldn't you love to know what each style is like at their best and … when they are not at their best?
What conversational minefields to avoid?
What conversations and topics will gave you enthusiastic co-operation?
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Here is the link for the DISC book:
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Barbara Pellegrino
Vision Board Success Trainer
Transformational Life Coach, CPC, CEC
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I loved having my own DISC profile done and the amazing report. It makes things much easier now. I can recognize each style and adjust my words to suit them. It really is like speaking a different language or dialect.
ReplyDeleteBarbara, I love your coffee/tea example regarding giving others what they want rather than what you wish you had. So true!
ReplyDeleteI have long subscribed to the philosophy that if you want to know what to give a person as a gift, look at what they gave YOU as gifts. People often give gifts that they wish they could give themselves. You'll have a big clue as to what they think is a nifty gift.
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