Communication skills and the golden rule

Why doesn't the golden rule work?

As you work with and enjoy looking at your Vision Board and take inspired action towards your goals and dreams

you will be meeting people and affecting something in their lives.

You may help change the course of their life just by a word or a smile.There’s an old saying

“do unto others as you would have done unto you.”

It’s called the golden rule …BUT, have you noticed it doesn’t work?

WHY NOT?

It is because often people want different things.

learned from Tony Alessandra.This is his platinum rule,

DO UNTO OTHERS AS THEY WOULD LIKE TO HAVE DONE UNTO THEM...

This means that if you like coffee and your friend likes teaYOU give them tea - Don’t insist that they taste YOUR delicious coffee. Yet so many people try to influence and force others to their way instead of meeting the needs of others.

When you understand the 4 personality styles and learn the way each style prefers to you will begin to communicate in a powerful and profound way. It is a great way to win friends and influence people.

When it comes to the basic human needs of love, acceptance,

kindness and appreciation - absolutely give the respect and acknowledgement

to others that you would like to receive. These are basic human needs, to be loved and appreciated, recognized and accepted for being who they are are general across all personality styles.

When it comes to communication styles and language-ing then it really supports the relationship if you could "work with the other persons language." Imagine traveling to a foreign country, how much better would you enjoy the experience and gain support if you could speak their language?

“The person with the greatest behavioral flexibility WINS!”- Barbara Pellegrino

Understanding the different communication styles and which behavioral style is more out going and direct verses shy and indirect and which styles are 'task oriented' versus 'people oriented' will give you the flexibility to develop greater rapport with many more people.

DISC is the acronym for the 4 major communication styles:

Driver - Dominant: Fast thinking, Fast acting. Bottom line. Direct. Task oriented. Leaders or loners.

Influencer - Socializer: Fun loving. People oriented. Star qualities. Leaders.

Sensitive - Relator: Cares for others. Wants to make everyone happy. Supportive.Team Players.

Constant - Analytical: Task oriented. Needs information -reseach facts & figures before making decisions. Tendency towards being a loner.

Discover how to recognize which style best describes you and how communicate with your opposite...

Wouldn't you love to know what each style is like at their best and … when they are not at their best?

What conversational minefields to avoid?

What conversations and topics will gave you enthusiastic co-operation?

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Transformational Life Coach, CPC, CEC

Master Practitioner Energy Leadership

NLP Trainer, Speaker, Author.

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What would you say…?

What would you say to someone you consider a "celebrity"

if you met them somewhere co-incidentally?

Especially if they were on your Vision Board?

Would you say “Hello”, smile and move on?

Ask for an autograph?

A picture together to put on facebook?

Would you compliment them and tell them how

they have impacted your life?

Would you ask them to review your work?

What would you wish for?

Today I met Bob Proctor at LAX (Los Angeles Airport) whilst walking down a hallway at the Marriott Hotel OMG! How amazing… (I consider Bob Proctor the “father of the personal development movement” for our time… I think Napolean Hill with his book “Think and Grow Rich”

to be the pioneer of this movement.

This was totalIy unexpected, and I was not ready but I still

grabbed the opportunity to introduced myself and said

how much I enjoy his teachings, then I asked him why

he was at LAX, he answered me, we shook hands, smiled

and exchanged “nice to meet you’s” I thanked him for

stopping to say hello… and we moved on.

Then the mind started, with the “Why didn’t I…?”

ask for a picture together

tell him which of his products I have enjoyed...

let him know who I am.. etc..

What should I have said?

What could I have said in that one moment of time?

What did I learn from this brief encounter?

I remember a training I attended last October, where the presenter said:

“If you were to meet Oprah… what would you say?”

(especially if you wanted her to support your cause)

How do you approach these busy people, potential mentors

to make a positive impression and have them be open to

connecting with you and possibly endorsing

your business or cause?

How does the law of attraction factor in to potentially

bringing you the exact circumstance you wish for?

What I learnt at the October seminar…

(but didn’t think about till today)

is to create and rehearse a formula for success.

And like all Mind Power, law of attraction techniques,

the more you practice it and resonate at that frequency

the faster it is likely to occur.

Formula for “Celebrity” communication - keep it brief.

1. Know what you want and why you want to connect with this “Celebrity”

1. Compliment the person on a specific part of their work

or a specific episode you enjoyed.

3. Briefly and concisely mention how it positively impacted you.

4. How it specifically supports/ blends with the work you do.

1. Ask if it would be possible to meet with, or speak to them for a specific amount of time - 5, 10 or 15 minutes - to briefly present to them, an overview of what you do and if they could offer any advice/suggestions.

Whatever happens after that is unknown … hopefully

the celebrity will agree … and whichever way it goes,

it will be an opportunity for you to learn and grow.

Practicing this particular formula has a two fold purpose:

1. You will be prepared and ready for the time you do meet your “celebrity.” There is a saying “luck is where opportunity meets preparation.”
2. As you practice and rehearse your “script” you are putting your intention out into the Universe, you are focusing on what you want

and spending a few minutes regularly being in the”energy” of it.

This is considered an active rather than passive visualization.

Have fun, enjoy your visions and may you be blessed with wonderful opportunities that you will be ready for…

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Committed to your success!

Barbara Pellegrino

Vision Board Success Trainer

Transformational Life Coach, CPC, CEC

Master Practitioner Energy Leadership

NLP Trainer, Speaker, Author.

http://visionboards.net

Vision Board 2011- Easy as 1,2,3.

Considering creating a Vision Board for your dreams and goals for 2011?

Now is the time PRE NEW YEARS resolutions to start planning.

Here is the easiest and quickest way to start. Follow these 3 easy steps and in January I will give you the next easy steps to living the life of Your dreams in 2011.

Just by beginning this process you will get new ideas, inspiration and much needed momentum to help you achieve your goals and live the life of your dreams for 2011. These achievements don't come about by accident, even the most co-incidental event has some intention around it. Otherwise your reticular activating system (the part of your brain that acts like a spam filter) would not even notice the event.

STEP 1:

Think about what you really want. Start to notice or actively look for images that match your goals and dreams.

It is always useful and necessary to begin with the "end in mind" and write down what you want to achieve either by this time next year or as a general life goal.

STEP 2:

Find a poster board, a cork board, a spiral notebook or journal to use as a base for your pictures. Grab some scissors, glue and glitter pens or scrap booking items to decorate the pictures and words you choose to place on your Vision Board.

STEP 3:

Create the board with the images and words that you find most attractive and inspiring. Place the board somewhere you will enjoy looking at it and presto! the seeds are planted.

Just by beginning you will have set the wheels in motion for your dreams to take form inside you. make sure you love looking at your Vision Board and that when you glance at your board you instantly feel happy and optimistic.

There are a few more steps that I will share with you in the New Year to help you really get in tune with your board and to accelerate the manifestation and achievement of your dreams & goals.

This is plenty for you to do right now, its a busy time and I would rather you do a little at a time when you create your Dream Board, than put it all in the "too hard" basket. Most people never start because they just cant commit the time it takes to make a Vision Board, that is why I am bringing you this powerful process in do- able, easy "sound bites " of time.

To ensure YOUR Vision Board Success.

Happy Holidays and Celebrations!

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Visions Coming True

Hi Barbara,

I just want to thank you for the vision board class you did for us. Only one week later, I signed the lease on an oceanfront rental, where I can walk out my back yard and snorkel with beautiful tropical fish.

I had visioned an oceanfront rental all my life. I didn't find the photo of the home but I

did place glass sea balls, a tropical fish with the word miracle on it and the word beachy in the wealth area of my board.

I am so in awe. I am receiving the blessings and thank God for the miracles that continue to amaze me. Thanks for your gift to us.

Lovingly......... Patty View from my new backyard attached.......